Summary Of The Book
Table Of Contents
- Chapter 1: Revelations
- Revelation 1: I Am
- Revelation 2: The One Became the Many
- Revelation 3: Everything Is Yours, Not Just Some of It
- Revelation 4: The Download
- Chapter 2: Beliefs | Our Beliefs Create Our Reality
- If You Believe Something, Does That Make It Real?
- Knowledge Comes from Opinions, Facts, and Personal Experiences
- Making Decisions and Judgments Based on Very Limited Information and Experience
- What Is Truth?
- Faith Is Trust
- Chapter 3: Explaining God
- A Light Bulb Analogy
- Consciousness Versus Conscience
- Projecting Our Human Perspective onto Our Definitions of “God”
- The Illusion of Separation Hides the Fact That We Are One
- Ignore Logic to Proceed
- Faith Is Always Required Because Awakenings Become Memories
- Ignorance Causes Conflict
- I Am
- Truth—You Know It When You Hear It
- God Is…
- Stop Ignoring the Suffering on Earth
- Free Will Has Consequences
- Our Painful Experiences Can Be Used to Help Others Later
- Chapter 4: Needs | Instinctual Drives
- Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
- Needs = Instinctual Drives
- Our Needs for Sex and Financial Security (Money) Are the Primary Drivers Behind Our Selfishness
- Life Is Stressful When Physiological Needs Are Not Met or Are Threatened
- How Much Money Is Enough?
- Finding a Balance Between Saving and Hoarding
- Asking Others for Money
- Inheritance Can Be a Curse
- Can Money Buy Love?
- If You Could Be Granted Any Wish, What Would It Be?
- Lottery Winners
- Happiness Is in the Future Once I Get…
- Happiness Is Not a Choice
- I’ll Be Happy When I Get More….
- Instant Gratification Versus Delayed Gratification
- Instincts: Sex, Sex, and More Sex…
- Human Partnership Is Usually a Conditional Trade for Sex and Financial Security
- Chapter 5: Nature Is Balanced
- The Perfect Circle of Giving and Receiving in Nature
- Chapter 6: What We Give Is What We Get
- Life Is a Boomerang
- Drug Dealers Say, “Someone Has to Supply the Demand”
- What I Dish Out Comes Back
- If You Give Insults, You Will Receive Insults
- Do You Get Away with Stealing If Nobody Sees It?
- The Results of Making Money by Benefiting Others Versus by Harming Others
- Chapter 7: Unconditional Giving
- Feelings from Unconditional Giving
- Spiritual Awakenings Result from the Action of Unconditional Giving to Others Over Time
- Continued Giving Is Required to Maintain a Spiritual Awakening
- Are Poor People the “Happiest”?
- Happiness Is Only Real When It Is Shared
- Self-Focus Is the Problem—Other-Focus Is the Solution
- Unconditional Giving Is Sometimes Inconvenient
- Helping a Stranger Who Asks
- Helping Those Who Don’t Give in Return
- HALT!
- Keep Giving Consistently, Regardless of Your Circumstances
- Say “Yes” to Giving Opportunities
- “I Will Help, But Only If I Get Something Out of It”
- Are All Your Interactions with People Conditional?
- Chapter 8: Setting Limits on Giving
- Giving Money
- Delaying an Answer to a Financial Request
- Drug Addiction Increases Selfishness
- Sometimes Not Helping Others Financially Helps Them
- Chapter 9: Trust
- We Trust Givers
- When Losing Trust in Others Is “Wising Up”
- Healing Takes Time and Patience
- Trusting That Unconditional Giving Is Possible Allows Others to Practice It
- Do Not Convert Unconditional Giving to Conditional Giving
- Chapter 10: Relationships
- “I Can’t Love You Until I Love Myself”
- Stress Is the Test for Every Relationship
- The Current Trend Is to Make No Commitments
- Communicating Your Needs
- Saying “I Love You”
- Real Love Is the Most Valuable Thing in Life
- Chapter 11: What Are You Teaching Others?
- We Are Always Teaching Each Other by Example
- Reacting to Anger
- Who Are Your Heroes and Why?
- Givers Are Our Favorites
- The Full Cycle of Human Life
- Attention Is the Most Important Thing I Can Give My Child
- Down Syndrome Teachers
- Dog and Cat Teachers
- Attractive Qualities
- Every Choice Matters
- Following My Heart, Not My Head
- Chapter 12: Ideas for Giving
- The Most Valuable Thing I Can Give to Others Is My Attention
- Giving Compliments
- Text Others Meaningful Words from Your Heart
- Free Compliments—A Great Idea
- Smile Often
- It Feels Good to Give Others Opportunities to Give
- Always Having to “Get the Deal” Is Not Very Giving
- Traffic Provides Opportunities to Practice Giving
- Always Be Nice to People in Service Positions
- Listening to My Heart with a Homeless Couple
- Nothing Feels Better Than Giving to Others
- I Asked My Daughter, “Why Be a Giver?”
- Be Real
- Business Giving: Give with No Catch
- Exercise = Better Mood = Better Giver
- Chapter 13: Forgiveness
- Forgiving Means Giving Before It Is Deserved or Earned
- Never Lend Money
- Asking for Forgiveness
- Forgiveness Is Always the Solution
- Thumbs-Up and Smile—I Forgive You for Being an Idiot
- It Takes Courage and Humility to Apologize When We Are Wrong
- Forgive Others When They Apologize for Being Wrong
- There Is No Defense Against Love
- The Solution to Racism Is Forgiveness
- Homosexuality Exists by Design—Live and Let Live
- Chapter 14: What’s My Purpose in Life?
- Is Your Life’s Purpose Expressed in Your Occupation?
- Persistence Is Required to Complete Your Goals
- Chapter 15: Clarity on Christianity
- Accounts of Jesus in the Bible Were Not Written Down Until Decades After His Death
- The Core Message of Christianity
- Christianity Has 30,000+ Versions, with Each Claiming Absolute Interpretation of the Truth
- Religion’s Rules, Traditions, and Rituals Were Not Part of Jesus’ Message
- My First Attempt at “Getting Saved” Was in a Trailer Church in Louisiana
- “Jesus, Save Me”—What Part Do I Play?
- What Is Hell?
- What Is Sin?
- Christianity’s Mainstream Interpretation of “Jesus Died for Our Sins”
- Grace, Karma, and Forgiveness of Sins
- Two Thousand Years Ago, Selfish Instinctual Drives Were Defined as the Devil
- In the Year 2000, I Learned the Truth About the “Devil”
- “Jesus Is the Only Way”
- Become Like Children Again—Return to Innocence
- The Core Message Is That “Simple” Works: Focus on One Thing and Do It Well
- Oxymoron: A Wealthy Spiritual Leader
- Despite Its Shortcomings, Christianity Gives Big
- Actions Speak Louder Than Words
- What Is God’s Will?
- Prayer
- A Method of Meditation I Find Easy to Do
- The Goal Is Progress, Not Perfection
- Chapter 16: Death Is Not the End
- Our Ego Dies, Not Our Spirit
- Spiritual Death Does Not Exist
- The Illusion of Separation
- Fear Is Mostly Imagined
- What Really Matters at the End of This Human Life?
- Chapter 17: My Life Experiences with Grief and Miracles
- My Experiences with Grief
- The Miracle Healing Story of My Dad’s Pancreatic Cancer
- My Dad Contacts Me in a Dream
- Chapter 18: World Goals
- World Goal 1: Clean Drinking Water for Those Without It
- World Goal 2: Adopting Just One Homeless Person or Family
- Judging the Homeless in Five Seconds
- Four Categories of Homeless People
- World Goal 3: Getting Rid of Nuclear Weapons
- World Goal 4: Population Reduction
- Chapter 19: Expert Giver Groups
- Introduction
- The Foundation of Expert Giver Groups Comes from AA’s Proven Methods
- The 7 Steps of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form)
- The 7 Steps of Expert Giver Groups (Long Form)
- Step 1: Finding a Mentor in an Expert Giver Group
- Step 2: Completing Your Personal Inventories
- Step 3: Reviewing All Four of Your Inventories with Your Mentor
- Step 4: Making a List of Amends and Reviewing It with Your Mentor
- Step 5: Making Your Amends
- Step 6: Take a Daily Personal Inventory and Promptly Admit When You Are Wrong
- Step 7: Mentoring Others
- The Ten Guidelines of Expert Giver Groups (Long Form)
- The Ten Guidelines of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form)
- Suggested Guidelines for Opening and Closing Expert Giver Group Meetings
- List of Figures
- Figure 1: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
- List of Tables
- Table 1: Master of Resentments
- Table 2: Resentment #1 (Offenders)
- Table 3: Resentment List #2 (What Happened / Instincts Affected)
- Table 4: Resentment List #3 (My Part in What Happened)
- Table 5: Resentment List #4 (Forgiveness, when I have no part)
- Table 6: Daily Personal Inventory
Summary Of The Book
Table Of Contents
- Chapter 1: Revelations
- Revelation 1: I Am
- Revelation 2: The One Became the Many
- Revelation 3: Everything Is Yours, Not Just Some of It
- Revelation 4: The Download
- Chapter 2: Beliefs | Our Beliefs Create Our Reality
- If You Believe Something, Does That Make It Real?
- Knowledge Comes from Opinions, Facts, and Personal Experiences
- Making Decisions and Judgments Based on Very Limited Information and Experience
- What Is Truth?
- Faith Is Trust
- Chapter 3: Explaining God
- A Light Bulb Analogy
- Consciousness Versus Conscience
- Projecting Our Human Perspective onto Our Definitions of “God”
- The Illusion of Separation Hides the Fact That We Are One
- Ignore Logic to Proceed
- Faith Is Always Required Because Awakenings Become Memories
- Ignorance Causes Conflict
- I Am
- Truth—You Know It When You Hear It
- God Is…
- Stop Ignoring the Suffering on Earth
- Free Will Has Consequences
- Our Painful Experiences Can Be Used to Help Others Later
- Chapter 4: Needs | Instinctual Drives
- Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
- Needs = Instinctual Drives
- Our Needs for Sex and Financial Security (Money) Are the Primary Drivers Behind Our Selfishness
- Life Is Stressful When Physiological Needs Are Not Met or Are Threatened
- How Much Money Is Enough?
- Finding a Balance Between Saving and Hoarding
- Asking Others for Money
- Inheritance Can Be a Curse
- Can Money Buy Love?
- If You Could Be Granted Any Wish, What Would It Be?
- Lottery Winners
- Happiness Is in the Future Once I Get…
- Happiness Is Not a Choice
- I’ll Be Happy When I Get More….
- Instant Gratification Versus Delayed Gratification
- Instincts: Sex, Sex, and More Sex…
- Human Partnership Is Usually a Conditional Trade for Sex and Financial Security
- Chapter 5: Nature Is Balanced
- The Perfect Circle of Giving and Receiving in Nature
- Chapter 6: What We Give Is What We Get
- Life Is a Boomerang
- Drug Dealers Say, “Someone Has to Supply the Demand”
- What I Dish Out Comes Back
- If You Give Insults, You Will Receive Insults
- Do You Get Away with Stealing If Nobody Sees It?
- The Results of Making Money by Benefiting Others Versus by Harming Others
- Chapter 7: Unconditional Giving
- Feelings from Unconditional Giving
- Spiritual Awakenings Result from the Action of Unconditional Giving to Others Over Time
- Continued Giving Is Required to Maintain a Spiritual Awakening
- Are Poor People the “Happiest”?
- Happiness Is Only Real When It Is Shared
- Self-Focus Is the Problem—Other-Focus Is the Solution
- Unconditional Giving Is Sometimes Inconvenient
- Helping a Stranger Who Asks
- Helping Those Who Don’t Give in Return
- HALT!
- Keep Giving Consistently, Regardless of Your Circumstances
- Say “Yes” to Giving Opportunities
- “I Will Help, But Only If I Get Something Out of It”
- Are All Your Interactions with People Conditional?
- Chapter 8: Setting Limits on Giving
- Giving Money
- Delaying an Answer to a Financial Request
- Drug Addiction Increases Selfishness
- Sometimes Not Helping Others Financially Helps Them
- Chapter 9: Trust
- We Trust Givers
- When Losing Trust in Others Is “Wising Up”
- Healing Takes Time and Patience
- Trusting That Unconditional Giving Is Possible Allows Others to Practice It
- Do Not Convert Unconditional Giving to Conditional Giving
- Chapter 10: Relationships
- “I Can’t Love You Until I Love Myself”
- Stress Is the Test for Every Relationship
- The Current Trend Is to Make No Commitments
- Communicating Your Needs
- Saying “I Love You”
- Real Love Is the Most Valuable Thing in Life
- Chapter 11: What Are You Teaching Others?
- We Are Always Teaching Each Other by Example
- Reacting to Anger
- Who Are Your Heroes and Why?
- Givers Are Our Favorites
- The Full Cycle of Human Life
- Attention Is the Most Important Thing I Can Give My Child
- Down Syndrome Teachers
- Dog and Cat Teachers
- Attractive Qualities
- Every Choice Matters
- Following My Heart, Not My Head
- Chapter 12: Ideas for Giving
- The Most Valuable Thing I Can Give to Others Is My Attention
- Giving Compliments
- Text Others Meaningful Words from Your Heart
- Free Compliments—A Great Idea
- Smile Often
- It Feels Good to Give Others Opportunities to Give
- Always Having to “Get the Deal” Is Not Very Giving
- Traffic Provides Opportunities to Practice Giving
- Always Be Nice to People in Service Positions
- Listening to My Heart with a Homeless Couple
- Nothing Feels Better Than Giving to Others
- I Asked My Daughter, “Why Be a Giver?”
- Be Real
- Business Giving: Give with No Catch
- Exercise = Better Mood = Better Giver
- Chapter 13: Forgiveness
- Forgiving Means Giving Before It Is Deserved or Earned
- Never Lend Money
- Asking for Forgiveness
- Forgiveness Is Always the Solution
- Thumbs-Up and Smile—I Forgive You for Being an Idiot
- It Takes Courage and Humility to Apologize When We Are Wrong
- Forgive Others When They Apologize for Being Wrong
- There Is No Defense Against Love
- The Solution to Racism Is Forgiveness
- Homosexuality Exists by Design—Live and Let Live
- Chapter 14: What’s My Purpose in Life?
- Is Your Life’s Purpose Expressed in Your Occupation?
- Persistence Is Required to Complete Your Goals
- Chapter 15: Clarity on Christianity
- Accounts of Jesus in the Bible Were Not Written Down Until Decades After His Death
- The Core Message of Christianity
- Christianity Has 30,000+ Versions, with Each Claiming Absolute Interpretation of the Truth
- Religion’s Rules, Traditions, and Rituals Were Not Part of Jesus’ Message
- My First Attempt at “Getting Saved” Was in a Trailer Church in Louisiana
- “Jesus, Save Me”—What Part Do I Play?
- What Is Hell?
- What Is Sin?
- Christianity’s Mainstream Interpretation of “Jesus Died for Our Sins”
- Grace, Karma, and Forgiveness of Sins
- Two Thousand Years Ago, Selfish Instinctual Drives Were Defined as the Devil
- In the Year 2000, I Learned the Truth About the “Devil”
- “Jesus Is the Only Way”
- Become Like Children Again—Return to Innocence
- The Core Message Is That “Simple” Works: Focus on One Thing and Do It Well
- Oxymoron: A Wealthy Spiritual Leader
- Despite Its Shortcomings, Christianity Gives Big
- Actions Speak Louder Than Words
- What Is God’s Will?
- Prayer
- A Method of Meditation I Find Easy to Do
- The Goal Is Progress, Not Perfection
- Chapter 16: Death Is Not the End
- Our Ego Dies, Not Our Spirit
- Spiritual Death Does Not Exist
- The Illusion of Separation
- Fear Is Mostly Imagined
- What Really Matters at the End of This Human Life?
- Chapter 17: My Life Experiences with Grief and Miracles
- My Experiences with Grief
- The Miracle Healing Story of My Dad’s Pancreatic Cancer
- My Dad Contacts Me in a Dream
- Chapter 18: World Goals
- World Goal 1: Clean Drinking Water for Those Without It
- World Goal 2: Adopting Just One Homeless Person or Family
- Judging the Homeless in Five Seconds
- Four Categories of Homeless People
- World Goal 3: Getting Rid of Nuclear Weapons
- World Goal 4: Population Reduction
- Chapter 19: Expert Giver Groups
- Introduction
- The Foundation of Expert Giver Groups Comes from AA’s Proven Methods
- The 7 Steps of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form)
- The 7 Steps of Expert Giver Groups (Long Form)
- Step 1: Finding a Mentor in an Expert Giver Group
- Step 2: Completing Your Personal Inventories
- Step 3: Reviewing All Four of Your Inventories with Your Mentor
- Step 4: Making a List of Amends and Reviewing It with Your Mentor
- Step 5: Making Your Amends
- Step 6: Take a Daily Personal Inventory and Promptly Admit When You Are Wrong
- Step 7: Mentoring Others
- The Ten Guidelines of Expert Giver Groups (Long Form)
- The Ten Guidelines of Expert Giver Groups (Short Form)
- Suggested Guidelines for Opening and Closing Expert Giver Group Meetings
- List of Figures
- Figure 1: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
- List of Tables
- Table 1: Master of Resentments
- Table 2: Resentment #1 (Offenders)
- Table 3: Resentment List #2 (What Happened / Instincts Affected)
- Table 4: Resentment List #3 (My Part in What Happened)
- Table 5: Resentment List #4 (Forgiveness, when I have no part)
- Table 6: Daily Personal Inventory
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