Step 1: Finding a Mentor in an Expert Giver Group. Admit that you need help managing your instinctual drives, and are willing to become humble and teachable, and to seek humility by finding a mentor in an Expert Giver Group and by committing to being honest and accountable to that person.

Step 2: Completing Your Personal Inventories. In the formats suggested, write down four different personal inventories: (a) Resentments; (b) Relationships; (c) Fears; and (d) Character Defects. Step 3: Reviewing All Four of Your Inventories with Your Mentor. Once you complete all four inventories in Step 2, arrange a meeting with your mentor to humbly and honestly go over all the lists together, being open to feedback that helps you to see things that you could not see on your own.

Step 4: Making a List of Amends and Reviewing It with Your Mentor. Make a list of amends that you owe to others, and review the list with your mentor.

Step 5: Making Your Amends. After you review with your mentor which amends to make and how to make them, start making those amends.

Step 6: Continue Taking Your Personal Inventory and Promptly Admit When You Are Wrong. Continue reviewing your resentments, intimate relationships, fears, and character defects—promptly admitting when you are wrong, and making amends immediately when you cause harm to others.

Step 7: Mentoring Others. Offer to become a mentor for others who are willing to go through the above steps. Be as unconditionally giving as you can in service to others. Be open to starting an Expert Giver Group in your area.